Picking a door is no simple decision

“I am thankful for doors. Those we close forever and for new ones we have to open.”

Of all the things I want to fix up or change around in my house, I find the one that creeps into my mind most often isn’t necessarily the most urgently needed. But there it is, presenting itself to me multiple times a day, urging me to make a decision already.

Which makes sense since it’s the front door I push open and closed all day long.

I take my front door decision very seriously. And as in most things, I do the deciding very slowly. This is mostly because I don’t trust myself. I know what I like when I see it in a magazine or on someone else’s house, but transferring that onto mine is something else entirely.

So long story short, I’m into doors right now.

I’m even into the psychology of doors, which is a thing. There are tons of articles on methods on choosing an entry door based on color. (Thanks realtor.com for letting me know that an orange door can send the message “I’m cheap or tacky.”)

That was a close one.

Unless, they add, you’re “lucky enough to own a high-end home…when it’s clearly expensive, you can do whatever you want.”

Really?

I’m also into the feelings related to different designs and the locks and the grip of various handles. Then there’s the position of the windows and how different designs complement certain home styles.

“Base your decision on the style of your home but don’t be afraid to break the rules and go completely opposite,” said Better Homes & Gardens.

Great advice. So clear.

With all the completely contrasting suggestions, I had to keep researching until I came across a little-known Idaho newspaper columnist named Flora Whittemore, who before her death at age 100, wrote, “The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we lead.”

I’m know she wasn’t referring to wood or steel so much as the big picture of decisions and life in general. I can relate to it both ways, anyway. She may have written those words years ago, but they still sounds very “Fixer Upper/Joanna Gaines” to me.

A door isn’t just a door. It’s an entry point. And an exit point. It sets a tone. And tone matters.

Then I decided this is actually an important decision. It’s ok to take time to pick out the right door. It’s ok to decide—slowly—which door to keep opening and for how long. It makes sense to find one that is secure, protects you from the elements and locks tightly when you’re safely inside.

If experience tells me anything, take it slow and the right door will, eventually, present itself.