Moms aren?t in it for money

Mother?s Day is Sunday, and for more than a decade has computed in dollars and cents what our moms are worth if they received a paycheck for all they do.

Obviously, mothers (and fathers) are priceless, but when I saw this study, I thought it was a clever way to give her an ?attagirl? for a lot of the thankless jobs she does.

Even though my mother died in 1985, it seems that the older I get, the more I can reflect on the valuable lessons she taught me.

Regardless of whether we are a new mom, moms with toddlers, teenagers, grown children, biological children, grandmothers raising grandchildren or any other combinations?this survey is for us.

For those of us contemplating motherhood someday, the survey can be an eye-opener. According to the survey of 6,100 stay-at-home moms, it was discovered mothers work 95 hours a week.

The time was divided between psychologist, janitor, personal chauffeur, daycare teacher, cook, housekeeper, computer operator, laundry operation, chief executive officer and facilities manager.

Comparing the median salaries of each of these jobs to the national median salary by employers, the final salary is calculated.

The three jobs carrying the most hours included housekeeping at close to 15 hours, with cooking and daycare teacher about the same at 14 hours.

Facilities manager came in fourth with 11 hours, and the others were between six to eight hours each.

Calculating the salaries for each individual job, the stay at home mom?s annual base salary was $38,000. Factoring in $81,000 for almost 55 hours of overtime each week, the total annual salary came to about $119,000.

The mother with a full-time job, according to the survey, would make an additional $80,000-plus if she were compensated in dollars for her ?labor of love.?

In no way is the survey meant to make light of what I consider to be one of the hardest jobs there is. Mothers don?t have children for monetary gain, and if someone thinks that will happen, they will be sorely disappointed.

After reviewing the survey, I think there are a lot of miscellaneous jobs that should be included. Treating injuries, shopping, yard work and activity planning for birthdays, sporting events, sleepovers and more.

Sometimes children need to share their mothers, but not in the way many of us think will happen.

One of the best tributes I ever heard about a mom came from my dad, who said his mom was the epitome of a mother. During the Depression in the early 1930s, his parents owned a small restaurant in Atchison. At that time, my dad was about 3 years old.

After working at the restaurant, my grandparents came home from a long day and while my grandmother made dinner, my grandfather propped up his feet and took a catnap. He didn?t wake up again. At 33, my grandfather died of a heart attack, leaving behind a wife and three children.

The youngest, was my father.

Unable to keep the restaurant going without her husband, my grandmother was forced to find other work, which she did as matron of the Ivy Cottage for Boys at the Kansas Children?s Home in Atchison.

During his formidable years, my father said he and his brother grew up with their mother close by, but for all intents and purposes they were raised like orphans.

Despite the hardship of having to lose his father at such a young age, and then having to share his mother with 50 to 60 other young boys, my dad always saw the positive.

Not long before his death in the early 1980s, he started writing stories about his childhood adventures, his years in World War II and Korea and the love of his mother.

As difficult as it was for my father, I find it even harder to imagine how sad my grandmother was in not being able to spend as much time as she would have liked with her own children.

As Mother?s Day approaches, I am grateful for the time I had with my mom and pray all good things to other moms.

Patty Decker writes news and feature stories for the Free Press.